Tag: Comfortable

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How do I see these feelings being expressed?

How do I want to feel within my life? Peace and tranquility. How do I want to feel within my relationships? Comfortable, safe, joy, understood, supported, generosity, grace, helpful and curiosity.

But what does that look like in real life, my life? How do I know I am moving towards my desired emotions? How do I make this tangible? I cannot control others so it is my emotions, actions and reactions that are evaluated. So what does peace and tranquility look like in my actions and reactions? What is currently not serving me?

  • Hiding my inner self is not serving me. This stems from fear and leads to suppressing emotions and resentment.
  • Suppressing emotions is not serving me. Feeling should come, be felt and then released. Suppressing them is not helpful. They always come back to bite you at the worst time.
  • Self-pity is not serving me. When I get caught up in “Woe is me,” I am only getting sucked into negativity. This then leads to envy and jealousy as I feel lonely and everyone’s life is easier than mine.
  • My triggers are not serving me. Every time an event, statement or feeling triggers me, I am not peaceful or tranquil. I flip out or overreact.
  • Living in the future is not serving me. This leads to worrying and stress and nothing that can be changed.

All the above leads to stress, worrying, anger, annoyance etc. While these feelings are important to feel and let go so there can be joy, peace, excitement etc., when they are the focus, it makes life infinitely harder.

What is serving me?

  • Expressing myself is serving me. Being my true self, allows me to live my life authentically.
  • Feeling emotions is serving me. Identifying and understanding my emotions allows me to feel them and release them.
  • Resilience is serving me. This
  • Evaluating my triggers is serving me. Growth comes with pain and understanding myself and my triggers allow me to unravel and unwrap them. This leads to additional calm.
  • Living in the present is serving me. This brings calm and the ability to feel the moment.

All the above allow for joy, laughter, curiosity, grace, generosity, etc. These allow for peace and tranquility. It make life infinitely easier.

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How do I want to feel within my relationships?

This question is so difficult for me. And I’ve tried to write this post many times and I gave up. So here at the new year, I am back at it. Trying to answer, “How do I want to feel within my relationships?”

In my life, I want to feel peace and tranquility. Thus my relationships need to support that goal to have peace and tranquility but what does that mean? There are so many types of relationships and you can’t feel the same in all of them.

  • My relationship with myself is where I want to feel comfortable. I want to be me and to be comfortable in being me.
  • My relationship with my spouse is where I want to feel safe. I want no fear in being myself or expressing myself.
  • My relationship with my children is where I want to feel joy. I want to feel joy in their personalities, eccentricities, fascinations, accomplishment, failures and joy in who they are.
  • My relationship with my friends is where I want to feel understood and supported. I want to share the highs and lows, to feel I am not alone and to laugh at all of life’s absurdities.
  • My relationship with neighbors and acquaintances is where I want to feel generosity and grace. I want to offer what I have and never covet what they have. I want to release judgement and fear of being judged and give grace where there is usually anger or annoyance.
  • My relationship with strangers is where I want to feel helpful. I want to send good out into the world by opening doors, smiling, giving a helping hand.
  • My relationship with those I agree with and those I don’t is where I want to feel curiosity. I want to feel curiosity in their opinions and in finding out what led to those opinions. Instead of agree or trying to change minds, I want to know the experience that led to them.

And through all these relationships and feelings, I want fun because life is so much better with fun.